|Posted on October 3, 2018 at 4:20 AM|
I remember ONE SPECIAL TIME when coincidence shaped my life. Talk about God’s plans and coincidence ~ coincidence is just a miracle where God chooses to remain anonymous. Sometimes it happens when we wait for His timing.
You see Bill, newly returned from Wyoming, was walking down the streets of St Paul one day and chanced to run into a former classmate, Tony from Tasmania. In the ensuing conversation Bill told Tony he was looking for a roommate, and Tony told Bill he knew a couple of guys who were also looking for a roommate. Thus Bill and Brad met. [Look at all the coincidences in this paragraph].
Why is this crucial? My roommate Sharon and I were debating about going out one snowy Friday night, and decided to go. At our destination, Sharon met Brad. It took several months for the relationship to become serious, but by late summer when I returned to Minnesota, it was a done deal! I was very happy for her, but a little depressed for me.
Well, God’s behind the scenes work became visible, and life took on a whole new dimension with love leading the path. Indeed God is always there; we just have to wait for His timing. You see, Brad and Sharon introduced Bill and I. We were impressed with each other, and since we shared the same goals, values and friends, our relationship speedily escalated into love. God’s hand was right there leading us on, and in 2 weeks Bill asked me to marry him, and I said "yes”. Two weeks!?! Yes, really two weeks. One of the first people we announced our engagement to was Sarah, Bill’s ‘Jewish God-mother’ (we affectionately called her that); she responded with the proclamation, “It was made in heaven”. We will never forget that.
Bill is the God created perfect man for me. Now understand friends, we were not perfect together from the beginning. We got along well most of the time, but all close relationships have to go through periods of adjustment, and life is one long period of adjustment. But know this, when we married and the vow said, “till death do us part” we meant it. To us it was a commitment. This, I believe, is what most young couples today miss. They seem to vow: “until I am unhappy” we will stay together.
I hate to see divorce for so many reasons. One is that in most cases so much reward comes from sticking to a commitment; in most cases, once you've begun the trek together, sharing many life experiences both positive and negative, the relationship that develops can be strong and happy. Don’t quit because you have to walk through some really rough places; they will just cause the good times to be even better. Do not quit on each other and on God! Allow God to work on you and your marriage. He can do miracles!
Bill and I often enjoy laughing together now. God helped us through many rugged times when we were tempted to seek different trails, but our God led us through that stony ground time; and we chose to stay. How thankful I am that we did not give into the temptation to take what seemed like the easier less painful way of giving up. Stand through the rough places! God will give you the strength.
During the early married / kid raising years, many challenges presented themselves; it was good and built something sturdy in us. Of course, it was still a time where events gave me joy; an inner source streamed through my spirit causing joy-flow continually. It was time for me to truly hear and accept the Word, for it teaches us that Jesus loves us and wants to be good to us. He gives us joy, and His joy is our strength:
Nehemiah 8:10 (NLT) This is a sacred day before our Lord. Don’t be dejected and sad, for the joy of the Lord is your strength!”
John 15:10 I have told you these things, that My joy and delight may be in you, and that your joy and gladness may be of full measure and complete and overflowing.
MY friends, when you decide to marry, pray about your decision together. Marry someone who is also a born again believer, then you will be on the same page when you have to strugge through difficult situations. Also remember that God's thoughts are hgher than our thoughts, and His ways are often not our ways, but they are always better!
Trust God and count on Him to be your leader.
A Favorite Scripture:
Psalm 138:8 He (God) will perfect that which concerns me.