Tears, hurt, anger. It happens to all of us at some point in time. A heart tearing woundedness.
How do we stop the pain? There is only one answer, and it's not easy: Forgiveness. A huge topic and one of major importance. Jesus taught us how to pray, and part of this ‘Our Father’ says, “…forgive us our trespasses as we forgive others”. In other words, if we refuse to forgive others we cannot be forgiven for our sins. Wow! See what I mean by "major importance’?
What does forgiveness mean?
It means to release someone who has wounded us (1) into God’s hands, and (2) from our retribution, and (3) from vengeful thoughts. (4) It means we allow God to handle them and our feelings about them.
It is the answer, for when we do forgive we are able to move on in life, and not allow the past to be a hook that constantly drags us back, barring us from continuing on the road God has prepared for us. Forgiveness opens the door for the entrance of joy into our lives. When we are ready, God may ask us to speak forgiveness to the perpetrator. It does not mean we have to ‘hang out’ with them; but God knows what is necessary for our complete healing. We trust God. Unforgiveness on the other hand, holds us hostage in the enemy’s clutches, for he is only too happy to continually pour gasoline on the fire of our pain to keep it alive and burning. He will bring up pictures and feelings to feed the flame of pain and anger building it ever higher to block out God’s healing balm. Unforgiveness can also open a door to the evil spirit that possessed the one who hurt the victim. Unforgiveness can be very serious, because it is so destructive.
The Word tells us:
2 Corinthians 2:8-15 (AMP)
I therefore beg you to reinstate him in your affections and assure him
of your love for him;
9 For this was my purpose in writing you, to test your attitude and
see if you would stand the test,
whether you are obedient and altogether agreeable
[to following my orders] in everything. . .
11 To keep Satan from getting the advantage over us;
for we are not ignorant of his wiles and intentions.
Forgiveness is obedience.
When we remember that Satan’s goal is to steal, kill, and destroy us, to turn us from our loving Father, his no good scheme is revealed. Even though it may be very difficult to forgive one who has deeply hurt us, God understands, and so He will give us grace to help achieve it! Obedience to God is extremely important, because it scrapes the enemy claws off allowing healing; and it keeps open the communication door with God, permitting His good plans for us to progress.
Are You having a difficult time forgiving someone? Ask God for help. He will respond with His grace.