I remember when coincidence shaped my life. Talk about God’s plans and coincidence ~ coincidence is just a miracle where God chooses to remain anonymous.
You see Bill, newly returned from Wyoming, was walking down the streets of Milwaukee one day and chanced to run into a former classmate, Tony from Tanganyika. In the ensuing conversation Bill told Tony he was looking for a roommate, and Tony told Bill he knew a couple of guys who were also looking for a roommate. Thus Bill and Brad met. [Look at all the coincidences in this paragraph].
Why is this crucial? My roommate Sharon and I were debating about going out one snowy Friday night, and decided to go. At our destination, Sharon met Brad. It took several months for the relationship to become serious, but by late summer when I returned to Milwaukee, it was a done deal! I was very happy for her, but a little depressed for me.
Bill is the God created perfect man for me. Now understand friends, we were not perfect together from the beginning. We got along well most of the time, but all close relationships have to go through periods of adjustment, and life is one long period of adjustment. But know this, when we married and the vow said, “till death do us part” we meant it. To us it was a commitment. This, I believe, is what most young couples today miss. They seem to vow: “until I am unhappy” we will stay together.
I hate to see divorce for so many reasons. One is that in most cases so much reward comes from sticking to a commitment; once you've begun the trek together, sharing many life experiences both positive and negative, the relationship that develops can be strong and happy. Don’t quit because you have to walk through some rough places; they will just cause the good times to be even better. Do not quit on each other and on God! Allow God to work on you and your marriage.
Bill and I enjoy laughing together often now. God helped us through many rugged times when we were tempted to seek different trails, but our God led us through that stony ground time; and we chose to stay. How thankful I am that we did not give into the temptation to take what seemed like the easier less painful way of giving up. Stand through the rough places! God will give you the strength.
During the early married / kid raising years, many challenges presented themselves; it was good and built something sturdy in us. Yet it was still a time where events gave me joy; no inner source streamed through my spirit causing joy-flow continually. It was time for me to truly hear and accept the Word, for it teaches us that Jesus loves us and wants to be good to us. He gives us joy, and His joy is our strength:
This is a sacred day before our Lord. Don’t be dejected and sad, for the joy of the Lord is your strength!” Nehemiah 8:10 (NLT)
I have told you these things, that My joy and delight may be in you, and that your joy and gladness may be of full measure and complete and overflowing. John 15:10